About Me
Hi there!
I’m Petra.
I feel like I’ve known you all my life. You are hurting. You’ve experienced so much injustice and struggles in your life. You are scared, angry, and exhausted. You are tired of being a victim.
You want a different life. You deserve a different life, one that is full of joys and happiness.
The problem is that you don’t know how to break out of the cycle of abuse.
You try to stand up for yourself, but you just can’t seem to make any real breakthrough to the life that you deserve.
I have been there.
As a child, I was sexually and physically abused. The pain was so unbearable, I learned to cope by suppression and escapism. I didn’t learn how to deal with the problems themselves, so I grew up falling into one controlling and abusive relationship after another.
It wasn’t an easy journey but I finally broke free from the abusive relationships. Today, I am happily married to the man of my dream. My husband David is loving, committed and supportive of who I am. He is truly the love of my life.
Unfortunately, being a victim of abuse is a life sentence. Abuse, in whatever form, is ultimately about control. When the abuser lost control of you, he or she will desperately try to reclaim control through whichever conduits that he or she can grab. These could be through common friends, coworkers, or worst, your children. The abuser may badmouth you, or make outrageous and false allegations against you, use parental alienation warfare against you using your children, or even attempting to file frivolous court cases as way of bullying you.
The abuser is unhappy and the abuser wants you to suffer. The campaign of attack can be draining and painful. You may feel very broken. It may seem hopeless, but don’t give up. You are stronger than you think. It’s the heat that shapes the iron, the challenge that creates the hero. You can be your own superhero.
As I am learning to deal with my past scars and my current problem, I want to share with you what I am learning. That’s how this website was born. This website is to support those who experienced or are experiencing abuse in all forms: emotionally, physically, sexually, financially… You deserve to be loved. You have the right to break free and thrive.
I am not a medical professional. I am not a therapist. I am not a lawyer. I am a victim and a survivor who is trying to learn so I can break free from the abuse in my own life. What written here on this website is purely my personal opinion and it is very much self-talk: things that I am trying to learn myself.
I hope that sharing my learning will help someone – you – with your own journey. I hope you will also use this space to share with me your journey. I want to know that I am not alone. I also want you to know that you are not alone.
Do not give up hope. You deserve to be happy.
It is not going to be easy. It may get a lot worse before it gets better. It may take a very long time. But don’t give up. Don’t give in. Because that’s exactly what your abuser wants. Take the power in your own hands. Take control of your own life, because you were born to thrive. Let’s do this!
Stay wonderful!
Petra Deeter, PhD
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